One of the teachers in the baby's room at daycare Facebook friended my husband and I. That act alone was weird to me. I have plenty of co-workers as Facebook friends, but this just seemed strange to me. Then I checked out her wall, because, you know, I am a total stalker. She has two kids - one 8 year old, who does not live with her, and one 2 year old, who does live with her and is in the other (not the toddler's) 2's classroom. Apparently she is pregnant again. She does not live with the father - he lives across the country and they are not even in a relationship, although he fathered the two year old and this baby. So, there are a lot of melodramatic statuses about this odd relationship. There are also lots of posts about how she cannot make rent or pay utilities. So I feel bad for her and for her daughter, who I know. But, at the same time, I do not have money to hand out, and I do not even know her that well. It is not that I think she Facebook friended us to ask for money; however, I cannot help but notice these statuses (they now show up in my news feed) without feeling bad. It is just awkward. I mean, I pick up the baby and see her and I am thinking "I know her story, but I should not know it so I am not going to say anything about anything. I will wait until she is really showing to congratulate her on her pregnancy. Does she think it is weird that I have not said anything? AAAHHH!"
Well, yesterday, her status was "looking for new work". She did not post the story, but did make a few comments that gave away she was fired. I do not want to know why. I really like our daycare, and while I am sure lots of stuff I would hate go on behind the scenes, I really, truly, do not want to know them. So, I do not want to know. But, I feel like I should say something. But, what? "Sorry to hear you lost your job. My kid really liked you." I think I will let my husband send her a message and I will just stay out - he is more social anyway!
What I am saying is this is weird. I should just hide her posts and forget we are friends. I cannot unfriend her - that would be so harsh. Right? Do you have any weird Facebook friends? Do you think this is even weird?
I had day care workers that did that to me. I never not friended them or deny friendship status...as a passive means to just let it keep hanging as if I wasn't on FB...
ReplyDeleteI would say to defriend her...I don't believe you get any notifications on it...you just simply go away. I had one friend defriend me and while I was confused about it...I figured we haven't spoken to each other in a while and I am okay with that.
Whoa! Totally weird. This is why I am hardly ever on Facebook. I call it Hell's Cocktail party. My high school friends, my neighbors, my kids, THEIR friends, former co-workers. What could I possibly say that I want ALL of them to know?
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